Dating can be complicated and actually being in a committed relationship can be even more complicated. We’ve all been in a situation where we’ve gotten close to someone who became our best friend and then we eventually moved to the next level and decided to pursue a relationship with that person. In the beginning, it may seem like it’s not a good idea. But in all honesty, dating your best friend is a great experience no matter what the outcome is.
During my freshman year of college, I was in a relationship with a guy that I had become very close with who I considered to be my best friend. We spent a lot of time together and we had a lot in common with each other. Like how most relationships start, it was great. I was happy and I was starting to develop deep feelings for this individual, but as the relationship went on we started drifting apart. We broke up and our relationship after we broke up became toxic to the point we couldn’t even be around each other. For about a year and some months, our relationship was up and down because we both still had feelings for each other, but we both knew that getting back together wasn’t the best for us. In the end we both apologized to each other, realized that life was too short and decided to start over and become friends again.
One thing I learned from dating my best friend was to not be afraid to take chances. I was afraid of losing the friendship that we had, but in the end we ended up going back to being just friends. Another thing I learned from dating my best friend is what not to expect from a man in my next relationship. While I was dating him, I suffered through a lot of emotional and verbal abuse. I’ve learned not to tolerate that from any man. Lastly, I learned to NEVER settle. After we broke up, I put up with a lot of grief from him, thinking that we would eventually get back together. I ended up being his back up plan and after a while I got sick of it and decided to move on.
Although relationships are difficult, finding the one you love is sometimes string you right in the face. Of course avoiding taking things further for the sake of a friendship is justifiable. You never know what you’re missing out on until you give it a shot. I’ve learned that dating your best friend is a sacrifice worth making.