So you are out on the town with your friends, having the best girl’s night ever. You all decide to hit your favorite restaurant to grab a bite to eat. As you await your hostess and she leads you all to your seats, you notice a familiar face. You are pleased to see this face because it is your friend’s husband, he’s a really great guy. As you slowly began to make your presence known, you are halted by a disturbing image–he is not alone and the woman he is with is not his wife– your friend. What do you do?
You know that your best friend’s man is no good. He is a liar and a cheat and you know this for a fact. How? He has hit on you many times, sometimes right in front of her rose-colored lenses. You want to prove to her that you are real about what you saying, so the next time he asks you out, you plan to take him up on his offer just to prove that he is not the man that she thinks he is. Is it your place to set him up for the exposure?
These are scenarios that happen in real life and real time almost everyday, whether you have been on the side of the exposed or the one to do the exposing. While many of us find it hard to tell our friends about their cheating man’s ways because we are concerned about their feelings, many women become fed up with their friend’s selective blindness and wants them to wake up before it’s too late.
We wanted to know if it’s the place of a woman to expose a man of his cheating ways? Should a woman play detective on another woman’s relationship, even when unsolicited?
We spoke with our #PynkGirls and got their thoughts on the matter:
“If I caught a friend’s man cheating, I would speak to him to make sure he knows I saw him, snap a photo for proof and then tell her what I saw. I would share in love because that can be a hurtful and embarrassing moment so you have to be careful.” -Tiffany G.
“Adult to adult, we have to be mature enough to compel others to speak on their actions and question their accountability on matters of infidelity. It’s bigger than just a mistake or poor choices, liars exhibit narcissism, lack of respect for others, and in these times compromise the sexual health of all involved. So YES someone needs to start the conversation.” -Raygon F.
“No I wouldn’t. Karma will always come around and it’s not my place to enforce it. And if I cheated (hopefully I never will) I wouldn’t want to be exposed so I’m not going to expose others.” -Amber D.