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“We’re Going to Need More Wine” Sheds Light on How Gabrielle Union Reminds us of our Dear, Mary Jane Paul

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If you thought you needed wine before, you’ll need more. While we’re all saddened to hear the news via social that our dear Mary Jane will be coming to an unexpectedly end; after giving us one more dose of her MJ antics in 2018 with a 2-hour premiere, much like it began. Mary Jane Paul will be put to rest, but always in our hearts; while Gabrielle Union is dropping gems, surprises, tales, and real-life stories with, “We’re Going to Need More Wine.”

It started when we all heard the news, which raised questions and started many talking after hearing the latest. Gab confessed and opened up about her hardship with infertility and how that has affected her. She admitted to having and struggling with 8 or 9 miscarriages, which is unimaginable.
“I have had eight or nine miscarriages. For three years, my body has been a prisoner of trying to get pregnant. I’ve either been about to go into an IVF cycle, in the middle of an IVF cycle, or coming out of an IVF cycle.”

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Even after the struggles, Gab and Hubby remain hopeful. The failed IVF cycles have been a factor for three years and she is constantly bloated from the hormones. She writes they “remain bursting with love and ready to do anything to meet the child we’ve both dreamed of.”

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The strength to continue to try for most would be weary, but for Union to have endured that many for that long is unthinkable. That shows determination and persistence, much like her character MJ; she has wanted to bear a child for as long as we were introduced to her 4 seasons ago. Mary Jane may not have ever had a miscarriage, but the opportunity never quite presented itself in a man or timing. She is constantly getting older and her biological clock has been ticking out of control. MJ, much like the age of Gab, is desperate. She went through freezing a man’s sperm and her eggs for that rainy day. If a man didn’t come through with her time, she would take her necessary measures. She showed us that very rainy day on the last episode of season 4, until she was dished an unexpected surprise from her beau; but that’s another story until next time.

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Bottom line is, MJ and Gabrielle have something in common, and they both want children. The only difference is the type of measures they are willing to take, and the now author has a constant and consistent man, with a ring on her left ring finger. Gabrielle has been married to NBA star, Dwyane Wade since August 2014. We will just have to wait and see about Pauletta and how her story closes. I know the way society and the people around you, whether family, public, or friends, often ask, ‘When are you going to have children, or how come you don’t have children?’ As if it’s some type of sin to not have children, but a certain age or not to have any at all. MJ and Gab are nearly the same age, and both in the public eye, the scrutiny can be something cruel.

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Regardless, I pray also that Gabrielle soul-searches and finds a way to make her motherly dreams come true for her union, without hurting herself mentally, physically, or emotionally. Good luck Gab! There is always adoption. I don’t recommend anything un-natural to conceive and carry. Look at it as maybe it’s just not meant if it doesn’t work out. It doesn’t mean you’re less of a woman. We all have a purpose and you could be living yours to be able to tell-all and share this story for another woman to read and be able to cope and accept; but we might need more wine.  I pray that Gab figures it out and that they may be able to add to their already God-given family one day, if it’s meant to be.

“I choose my motherf**king self.”

In the beginning. Gab,44 didn’t see children being apart of her future. The joy she felt helping to raise three boys with her husband, 35, his nephew and two sons. She tells PEOPLE, “I never wanted kids. Then I became a stepmom, and there was no place I’d rather be than with them.”

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The Actress and Mogul opened up more than what I think many thought she would. She had spoken in the past about her feelings toward tell-all memoirs and this is nothing short of. This memoir is something for the books, with a collection of essays. She talks about a series of randomness, like her relatable experiences going to the drug store during that time of the month; or when she experiences a yeast infection and needs an over-the-counter fix. She also discusses more on a serious and more important note, Gab is a victim of sexual assault, tragic rape happening to her in her early adult years. She doesn’t let that hold her back or control her destiny, she uses that to fuel her and now advocating against sexual abuse. There is life after, and she has proven that very fact with her much success also, as producer, activist, entrepreneur, and overall business woman. She talks about her mother’s lessons and keys to success; looks like mama’s tips were right. She also speaks candidly about issues with the ex, growing up dark-skinned, black hair, Judy Blume, and the struggles of being black in Hollywood.

It’s no secret that the Being Mary Jane leading character has a thing for SEX, who doesn’t like great sex, right? Well, Gabby enjoys the “D” too. In chapter two, titled “Sex Education,” she boldly scribes, “I want people to make informed, joyful choices about sex. Because I love sex.” Being sexually liberated is something else they have in common. When single she loved options and variety, and not afraid to admit. Union encourages, “Explore the full range of everything and feel zero shame. Don’t let society’s narrow scope about what they think you should do with your vagina determine what you do with your vagina.” Written like a real-life stickie on MJ’s mirror. Either way, we’re going to need more wine.

“It was terrifying putting myself back into some of the scenes you’ll find here, but it was also the essential work of finding my authentic self.  As I retrace the steps and missteps of my life I began to stop avoiding memories that triggered emotional flashbacks and I chose to embrace them as revelations; each revealed a bread crumb that I had dropped along the way, leading me further on my path to understanding who I truly am.  Reading all these stories together, I wondered if I really was brave enough to share all of this; and I remembered another quote I wrote down.  This one comes from Carrie Fisher, “Stay afraid, but do it anyway.”  So cheers, here’s to us being afraid, and doing it anyway.”

Catch our girl Gab on tour right now in your city:

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Photo Credit(s): BET, IMDB, HarperCollins Publishers, Free Library of Philadelphia, Gab’s IG

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